Debility challenges the power of love and care somewhat differently than actual illness and death do. It brings into focus the micro-processes of care. One is left with the day to day reality of who cares: who comes to visit, who has the time and the willingness to clean one’s bedclothes, to provide a bath, … such care is hard to sustain. So while love is central to the ethos of care in Botswana and while many debilitated persons receive an incredible amount of love, the chronic and diachronic aspects of debility can also lead to feelings of scorn that simmer for many years.
on debility and moral imagination, by julie livingston